How to deal with Narcissist's proxies: (1) Find out who they are and then fire off a written letter to them (not an e-mail, text, phone call or verbal confrontation), explaining that if they're working with your ex, that they are stalking and harassing you. (2) Explain in detail in the letter of what they're doing. (3) Strongly inform them that you will not only file criminal charges against them for stalking, harassing, and whatever other charges involved, but you will sue them in civil court for money damages.
This includes professionals as well. I had a father that had the mental health therapist, who was obviously siding with the mother, submit a scathing report to the Court about the father's behavior around the children. It caused the father to lose parenting time. The only problem is that this mental health fraud never interviewed the father or the father with the children. She based her scathing report on what the mother told her. I told the father to file a formal complaint with the Board of Psychological Examiners. He did. And, the mental health therapist was hit with 3 counts of unethical conduct. She almost lost her license, but was given the option of paying a hefty find, and completing 6 ethics classes within 90 days and showing her certificate of completion of said courses to the Board immediately thereafter. The report was withdrawn and stricken from the record, but the Family Court Judge is still diddling around with giving the Father back his parenting time.
In another situation, the father's ex-wife's girlfriend threatened to have the father arrested and jailed where he would be "butt-raped". This occurred at the police station where the father and mother were meeting for his visitation/parenting time exchange, because the mother had gotten too violent when the father tried to pick up his children from her. Fortunately, I had told the father to use his cellphone to video and audio record any conversations he was to have with the ex and her friends going forward. We got her on audio and video threatening this father, and we also caught her saying these threats on the police department video cameras in the police station. She is now facing charges of terroristic threats, harassment, stalking, criminal coercion, and a few other criminal charges.
Bruce, you’re a walking legal survival guide at this point. Your advice is blunt, smart, and absolutely necessary in this minefield of proxy warfare. Narcissists don’t just fight dirty — they outsource it. And people still underestimate how dangerous these enablers can be until it’s too late.
The fact that a therapist submitted a report without ever meeting the father is appalling but sadly not shocking. Good on you (and him) for pushing back and holding her accountable — more parents need to know those complaint boards exist and actually work sometimes.
And that story at the police station? Wild. Horrifying. But also the perfect example of why documentation is everything. Without that video, she’d be out there spinning the narrative like nothing happened. Now she’s facing real consequences — as she should be.
Appreciate you sharing this stuff. It’s exactly what people in the trenches need to hear.
I love your work. You’re able to synthesize and deliver in clear and concise manner whats difficult to articulate. Thank you for your dedication to educate the public and protect our children and families.
Wow, thank you so much — that really means a lot. I try to put words to the things so many of us have felt but didn’t know how to say out loud. It’s not always easy, but knowing it resonates makes it all worth it. Appreciate you being part of the fight to protect families and speak the truth.
Michael really really good man! I hope you don’t mind I’m going to meme up your work so at to show the world
Thank you for the kind words. Meme it up! I appreciate it.
How to deal with Narcissist's proxies: (1) Find out who they are and then fire off a written letter to them (not an e-mail, text, phone call or verbal confrontation), explaining that if they're working with your ex, that they are stalking and harassing you. (2) Explain in detail in the letter of what they're doing. (3) Strongly inform them that you will not only file criminal charges against them for stalking, harassing, and whatever other charges involved, but you will sue them in civil court for money damages.
This includes professionals as well. I had a father that had the mental health therapist, who was obviously siding with the mother, submit a scathing report to the Court about the father's behavior around the children. It caused the father to lose parenting time. The only problem is that this mental health fraud never interviewed the father or the father with the children. She based her scathing report on what the mother told her. I told the father to file a formal complaint with the Board of Psychological Examiners. He did. And, the mental health therapist was hit with 3 counts of unethical conduct. She almost lost her license, but was given the option of paying a hefty find, and completing 6 ethics classes within 90 days and showing her certificate of completion of said courses to the Board immediately thereafter. The report was withdrawn and stricken from the record, but the Family Court Judge is still diddling around with giving the Father back his parenting time.
In another situation, the father's ex-wife's girlfriend threatened to have the father arrested and jailed where he would be "butt-raped". This occurred at the police station where the father and mother were meeting for his visitation/parenting time exchange, because the mother had gotten too violent when the father tried to pick up his children from her. Fortunately, I had told the father to use his cellphone to video and audio record any conversations he was to have with the ex and her friends going forward. We got her on audio and video threatening this father, and we also caught her saying these threats on the police department video cameras in the police station. She is now facing charges of terroristic threats, harassment, stalking, criminal coercion, and a few other criminal charges.
Bruce, you’re a walking legal survival guide at this point. Your advice is blunt, smart, and absolutely necessary in this minefield of proxy warfare. Narcissists don’t just fight dirty — they outsource it. And people still underestimate how dangerous these enablers can be until it’s too late.
The fact that a therapist submitted a report without ever meeting the father is appalling but sadly not shocking. Good on you (and him) for pushing back and holding her accountable — more parents need to know those complaint boards exist and actually work sometimes.
And that story at the police station? Wild. Horrifying. But also the perfect example of why documentation is everything. Without that video, she’d be out there spinning the narrative like nothing happened. Now she’s facing real consequences — as she should be.
Appreciate you sharing this stuff. It’s exactly what people in the trenches need to hear.
I love your work. You’re able to synthesize and deliver in clear and concise manner whats difficult to articulate. Thank you for your dedication to educate the public and protect our children and families.
Wow, thank you so much — that really means a lot. I try to put words to the things so many of us have felt but didn’t know how to say out loud. It’s not always easy, but knowing it resonates makes it all worth it. Appreciate you being part of the fight to protect families and speak the truth.