The Danger of a Narcissist's Amnesia: How Selective Memory Gaslights Victims and Twists the Truth

Jan 15, 2025

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A symbolic representation of narcissist's amnesia and gaslighting. The image features a courtroom setting split into two contrasting halves. On one side, a calm, manipulative figure sits in shadow, holding a mask of innocence while denying events with the words 'I don’t remember' floating above. On the other side, an anxious, distressed victim struggles to present evidence, surrounded by fragmented mirrors symbolizing their broken sense of reality. Above, scales of justice are tilted heavily toward the manipulative figure, with cracks running through them. The overall tone is somber and unsettling, using dark grays and muted blues to emphasize emotional tension.

One of the most insidious tactics a narcissist employs is what can be described as "narcissist's amnesia." This is not a clinical diagnosis but rather a pattern of behavior in which the narcissist selectively remembers only what aligns with their narrative while conveniently "forgetting" anything that contradicts their version of events. This tactic is …

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