She Knew the Court Order—But Tried to Flee Anyway: The Miami Custody Case That Exposes a Dangerous Double Standard
On July 9, 2025, law enforcement at Miami International Airport intercepted what could have become a nightmare for one Florida father—and another data point in a growing pattern of custody interference that courts too often downplay when the perpetrator is the mother.
Thirty-six-year-old Shandrell Deon Willis was arrested while attempting to board a flight with two of her children—Ivy (6) and Devin Jr. (10)—despite a standing court order prohibiting her from being within 500 feet of them. She had no legal custody, no visitation rights beyond limited supervised contact, and a domestic violence injunction that had been in place since February. The children's father holds sole custody, legally and practically.
And yet, she nearly got away.
The Facts: Not a Mix-Up—A Deliberate Violation
This was not a case of miscommunication or confusion. Willis broke into the father's home, allegedly ransacked the residence, took the children without permission, and attempted to fly out of state—to Georgia or Texas—with four minors, including two from other relationships. When apprehended at the airport, she was looking for cheap tickets, having failed to purchase a flight earlier.
Authorities acted swiftly, issuing a statewide Missing Child Alert, and to their credit, the children were found safe. But the story shouldn’t end there—and the implications shouldn’t be minimized.
The Charges: A Slap on the Wrist?
Despite multiple counts of interference with custody, attempted removal of minors from the state, and violating a domestic violence injunction, Willis’s bail was set at just $7,500. That’s less than the cost of a used car—and it sends a dangerous message: that kidnapping your children in violation of a lawful court order is something you can get away with for a few thousand dollars and a public defender.
Would a father with a history of domestic violence, a court-ordered injunction, and zero custody rights be treated this leniently if he forcibly took his kids from their mother’s home and tried to flee the state?
Let’s be honest: absolutely not.
The Double Standard in Family Court
This case is a stark reminder of the gendered double standard that persists in America’s family courts and child protection systems. When a father violates a custody order, it’s considered a threat. When a mother does it, it’s too often framed as a misunderstanding or act of desperation.
The media coverage, while factual, tiptoes around the severity of the violation. Descriptions of Willis as "homeless" or a "housekeeper" seem designed to humanize her—while her willful disregard for a court order and potential to endanger children are quietly buried under the headline.
This is not about denying mothers rights. It’s about equal enforcement of the law, regardless of gender. The father in this case followed the legal process, obtained a custody order, and did everything by the book. For that, he almost lost his children.
We Cannot Normalize Parental Abduction
What happened on July 9 wasn’t just a technical violation—it was an abduction, plain and simple. And if not for a delay in travel plans, the children could have vanished across state lines, lost to the chaos of interjurisdictional custody confusion for weeks or months. Tragically, in many cases like this, it takes years to reunite families—if ever.
This case must be treated as a wake-up call for lawmakers, judges, and family courts: Parental rights matter. Court orders must be enforced. And domestic violence injunctions are not optional.
The Way Forward
Custody interference must carry real consequences. Judges must stop minimizing these incidents when the perpetrator is a mother.
Equal enforcement of domestic violence protections and custody laws is essential—if we claim to care about children’s well-being.
Public awareness must shift away from outdated tropes and toward balanced, fact-based reporting that recognizes the rights of both parents.
Fathers must be heard—especially when they have done everything right but are still left vulnerable to false narratives and soft-touch enforcement.
Final Thought
The father in this case acted quickly, trusted law enforcement, and did what every parent is told to do: follow the legal path. But he almost lost his children anyway. Until courts and communities treat custody interference by mothers with the same seriousness they do when committed by fathers, true justice—and child safety—will remain one-sided.
It’s time to stop excusing maternal abduction. The law should apply to everyone.
Nobody can call DCF. You are labeled as an "alienator". It's gotta come from some one other than the parents. The therapist outside the courts are afraid of family court cases. The abusive parent will sue them. Happens often. Karen when you get a moment you should read the report that just came out about Connecticut and the DV programs. The plea bargaining and nullying of cases. What is a fit parent? Cause I don't think the courts have any idea of what it means in several cases. According to the 2014 Connecticut hearings the Alienation industry feels they are the only one who can make that determination. The 3 strikes rule was presented in Connecticut in 2014. Slightly different but the same by the Alienation industry. I found the leading expert CT my xs attorney and one of my attorney on the gals cash app. * Who coaching people* to look like the fit parent? I met a Mom who is a DV survivor. ) the peritrators been plead down to lesser charges) she had my gal. The kids were reluctant to go with the father. ( They witnessed). The kids were courtnapped and she was arrested for custodial interference. Just like the Alienation industry wants. $supervised visits. $ therapy. All perfectly orcastrated. I spoke to Mr. Garza who insist that the " expert" has nothing to do with his 3 strikes bill. As soon as he used the same line as the "expert". About being forced to go to school. Children are not being abused at school. If they are you go to the board of education and school administration. You don't just say too bad honey toughen up. The entire situation is a mess. The best thing to do is a criminal investigation into the court system. There on to what is happening in Arizona. People children are being kidnapped by the courts much more often than by parents.
If the courts would stop criminalizing parents there would not be these issues. When court orders are inhumane, violate due process, and violate God given unalienable rights to bring up our children, parents of both sexes and the children are traumatized and punished. The treatment is barbaric. I don't know the specifics of this case, but I do know, there are formulas operating throughout the country whereby one parent is targeted during the divorce, and no-contact orders are put into place without any finding of unfitness, without even a call placed to DCF, and children are isolated and have a loving parent ripped from their lives.
I'm not justifying this woman's actions, and I don't know the stats regarding sexes; I do know that the same pattern of essentially killing off one parent is a silent epidemic throughout US family courts and beyond.
If we had just family courts--if there were juries-- if they were live streamed and available for public view, the outcomes would be far different and shared custody would replace the eviseration of one parent, and the financial devastation of families who simply wanted a divorce.